Over the weekend, I had the pleasure of being able to speak to a group of young teenaged women who were aspiring to be Sports Casters for the Women’s National Collegiate Atheletic Association (WNCAA) Philippines. Courtesy of Converse Philippines, they went through a full-day workshop where they got make up tips from Bobbi Brown, picked up pointers on self-presentation and public speaking from Rizza Diaz, a current Sports Caster with the WNCAA.
I covered specifically the area of self-presentation and how to be confident both ON and OFF camera. It was heart-warming to be able to share with these ladies, because when I was a teen myself, I struggled with confidence issues. Therefore, self-presentation and confidence building is a topic quite close to my heart.
Now, standing at 5’11”, I love being tall. But it was not always like that. Before, I used to be self-conscious about the fact that I was always taller than everyone else. Not only did I feel I was different from everybody else, I LITERALLY stuck out from the crowd.
But through years of practise, I learnt how to be a more confident person and push myself past my boundaries. Here are some of the tips I shared with the ladies on how to be more confident.
1. Think tall
This is probably an odd thing for someone who’s 5’11” to say. But, being tall and slouching is never an attractive thing. Posture is the first thing you can change to make yourself more confident. Whether you are on or off camera standing, sitting, walking to the grocery store or running, always THINK TALL. Stand tall, walk tall, sit tall. Especially for the ladies who will be on camera interviewing athletes, you will need to show them that you are in charge. Remember, body language is more than 70% of our communication, so act the part!
2. Speak slowly
Choosing your words and delivering them deliberately portrays confidence because normally, when we are nervous we speed up and rush through our words. Breathe, choose your words and enjoy your time to speak.
3. Know thyself
You may have heard this before, but knowing yourself does not just involve knowing your strengths and your weaknesses. It also involves recognising yourself as a product of your history. Your family, your friends, your achievements, failures and adversities all define you as a person.
During the workshop, the girls had to do a reflection exercise and write about themselves and their families. In addition to that, they wrote about what their hobbies were, if they had won any awards, why they were in this competition etc.
Afterwards, I went around to read their stories and gave them pointers on what they could develop on and what incidences they could draw strength on. The key was to inspire them to think about what motives them, who inspires them, the reasons behind their choices and what lessons they could learn from the milestones in their lives.
This exercise is one that can follow them throughout their lives. Having a journal, or in my case, a blog, that helps document highs and lows, let’s me keep a good record of everything that has happened.
4. You are unique
Following on from the previous point, once you understand yourself and your story, NEVER compare yourself to anyone. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. So, what you can do, someone else may not be able to. For instance, I know for a fact that I cannot sing, and probably will never be auditioning for any talent show. But since, I have been blessed with the ability to connect with people, I will sharing my story and inspiring others through workshops instead of singing about it. Haha.
5. Dress the part
Looking good always makes you feel good about yourself. Dressing the part does not necessarily mean wearing expensive or clothes that are too revealing. Dressing the part means understanding what the circumstance is and wearing clothes that are appropriate to the situation. For instance, you would not wear slippers to a job interview. On top of that, wearing clothes that are well-fitted to your body also makes you look sharp and presentable. Plus, dressing smartly gets people to pay attention to you.